Farewell Tim Tripcony
My friend Tim Tripcony passed away this weekend. As many others have said, he was a kind, caring soul who always gave of himself, and it’s a tragedy that he is no longer with us.
Since hearing the news, I’ve been haunted by something he said to me one time. One night after too many drinks at Kimono’s or some other Lotusphere party, we were talking and he no-so-jokingly said that he always felt “like he didn’t fit in.” When I asked “Where?” his answer was “Anywhere.” It lead us to a long talk about being an awkward introvert, and I explained to him that he very much fit in within our community, and our group of friends, and that he would always fit in with me. I was proud to call him my friend.
The thing that saddens me so much, is that he never got to see the outpouring of love that came from this community this week. There were tributes and blog posts and tragic tweets of disbelief from all over the globe. I’m in no way exaggerating when I say that Tim was universally loved, respected, and looked up to by a great many people. Myself included. I really wish he could have been able to appreciate that before he departed this world. I’m sure it would have made him smile.
So I ask you, for those friends of yours around the globe you care about. Let them know a little more often. Check in and say Hi out of the blue. I’ve done a lot of texting and emailing this week doing just that. Chances are, if you read this blog, I call you a friend. And I love a great many of you.
So in a few minutes, I’m going to mix up a white russian, and connect to a Google Hangout celebrating his life. I’ve posted the video to Warren Zevon’s “Keep Me in Your Heart for Awhile.” Tim always kind of reminded me of a redheaded Warren Zevon for some reason (check out the resemblance in the black and white footage of Warren playing the piano) and this song, while it almost always makes me cry, is a perfect sendoff.
Farewell Tim, I’ll definitely keep you in my heart for awhile.
DavidLeedy
May 16, 2014 @ 8:50 pm
nicely said….
Roy Rumaner
May 16, 2014 @ 10:22 pm
I want to make the clocks go backwards to last Saturday so I can tell Tim that I love him one more time. We always ended every conversation that way. Maybe one more time might have helped.
raybilyk
May 16, 2014 @ 11:04 pm
That was spot on (including the song). I didn’t get much time to have with you at #IBMConnect, but know that I love you like a brother!
John Roling
May 16, 2014 @ 11:09 pm
Right back atcha sir.
Monica Mora
May 16, 2014 @ 11:20 pm
well said and a very fitting song…. thank you for sharing. I am honored to have known Tim and called him a friend. He will be dearly missed.
msbulloch
May 16, 2014 @ 11:44 pm
Perfectly said, John. And to reiterate something you said – TELL THEM. Tell the people you admire or respect or love. Don’t be shy about it. Tell them they matter to you.
vw
May 17, 2014 @ 1:42 am
If it’s okay, I would like to add, spend time with them if possible as well. It’s so easy to get separated from each other. The human touch can make a big difference in someone’s life. A hug, a handshake, a pat on the back, we need these as much as water and food
Cheryl Kaina Spring
May 17, 2014 @ 12:30 am
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing the sentiments and the song.
Richard H. Schwartz
May 17, 2014 @ 1:44 am
I’ve seen this too many times in my life already. It challenges us all to find the right way to react. Well said, John. Well said.
Mat Newman
May 17, 2014 @ 11:49 am
Beautiful mate, a touching tribute to a truly wonderful guy. We will most certainly miss him, and if y’all don’t mind, the hugs will be a little harder, and last a lot longer next January to show what you all mean to me too. (Hug)
Mrs. Kelly (aka TheNotesAppren
May 19, 2014 @ 7:26 am
Andrew just told me about Tim and I was shocked. Between you, Tim, and Roy (totally drawing a blank on Roy’s last name) I had a wonder first Lotusphere. Each of you quietly and sometimes not so quietly made me feel completely welcome. Five years later and I’m not an admin anymore but I married a wonderful man from that same first Lotusphere. I often think of late night Kimono’s conversations I can probably count on one hand the number of conversations we’ve had, but I look up to you and miss the community greatly! I hope to see you again some day Greyhawk 🙂
Nathan Freeman
May 28, 2014 @ 1:59 pm
John, when you wrote this, I wanted to respond with a link at the time. Now I finally can…
http://nathantfreeman.wordpress.com/2014/05/27/thelastword/
John Roling
June 1, 2014 @ 6:56 pm
Thanks for sharing Nathan, I know that couldn’t have been easy to write, but I’m glad you did.