My 43rd birthday was back in October, and I had planned on doing one of those inspirational “Things I’ve Learned” posts to share what little wisdom I bring to the table. So it’s taken a few months, but here are things 43 years of living have taught me.
There is no better feeling in the world than returning home to be greeted by a happy dog, except being greeted by happy children.
You will never regret hard work. If you work hard at something, it means more.
Do not be afraid to fail at new experiences. Failing = Learning. In addition, you just may find yourself enjoying something you’ve never tried.
You’ll regret the things you were afraid to try much more than the things you did try.
Be nice to your ex-loves. You loved them for a reason, just because it didn’t work out doesn’t mean you need to hate them or tear them down.
Tip well in every situation, it can only benefit you.
If someone is mean to the waiter or waitress, that person is not someone you want to associate with
Don’t trust people who don’t like dogs.
If you don’t ask, the answer is always no.
Try new foods whenever you have a chance, your palate will surprise you.
The only truly healthy way to lose weight is to eat healthier, consume less, and exercise some. You just need willpower, not drugs or a system.
Hug your family every single day. You’ll miss it terribly when you no longer can.
Keep your word. If you promise something, come through.
Don’t promise too much. Always under-promise, then over-deliver.
Don’t be afraid to take time for yourself. It’s good to decompress.
If your car costs as much as my house, you can wait to merge into traffic.
Be kind to the planet. It’s the only one we have.
I don’t care what your belief system is. If it brings you peace, that makes me happy.
You shouldn’t care about my belief system. It brings me peace, and I am happy.
Music should be part of every day
Take lots of photos. They are the best way to document the life you live.
Don’t worry about things you cannot change. The sooner you can “let go” of that stress, the happier you will be.
There’s nothing wrong with nudity. The human body is beautiful, and people who can’t handle seeing a nipple or a woman breast feeding are idiots.
Cursing is not inherently evil. Words are simply words. Know when to fucking use them as punctuation.
You should live with someone before marrying them. Loving someone does not equal the ability to live with someone.
You’re never too old to play games
Be an individual, never be afraid to be YOU.
Statistically, half the world are idiots. If you run across one, don’t bother trying to figure out their motivations. They are just idiots.
Life is too short to hate your job. If you hate what you do, change what you do. You have the ability to make that leap.
I don’t care what you do behind closed doors as long as you aren’t hurting anyone.
Everyone deserves to be happy
I wish I would have known some of these things back when I was a kid. All I can do now is help others. Hopefully this does help in some small way. Have a great weekend everyone.
Since my day job is running an IT Department, I like to keep up with all different kinds of technology. I’ll often get equipment to test out and utilize in order to be able to talk about it intelligently and give the appropriate pros and cons.
To this end I recently obtained a Nokia Lumia 1020 smart phone. It runs the Windows 8 Phone OS and sports a 41 megapixel camera. It’s a very nice piece of hardware, and takes amazing pictures. It doesn’t have all of the applications I normally use on my iPhone, but I could live without some of those for the most part. The thing that really locked me in ended up being Apple’s Messages app.
Messages is the app on the iPhone that you utilize to text other phone users. It also has clients that run on Mac computers as well as the iPad. It’s very convenient to set it up everywhere. When people send you something on Messages, it shows up on all of your devices at once.
You can associate your phone number as well as any number of email addresses to your Messages account. I think at this point, you can find me by my cell number and something like 6 different email addresses. This is awesome, yet it really locks you in.
You see, while testing phones, I used a SIM card adapter to move my SIM card from my iPhone to the Lumia. I was able to fire up the Lumia, make and receive calls, and connect to the internet via LTE. Everything was awesome, until someone tried sending me a text via Messages.
Since I have Messages set up on a couple of computers and an iPad in addition to my normal iPhone, any time someone on IOS tried to send me a message it went to those devices and not the Lumia. I even had my wife try to send me a message using only the phone number, but, since her contacts had that number tied to my email addresses, it automatically sent through Messages anyway and bypassed normal SMS.
Unfortunately, the only way to avoid that is to go to all of your devices and disassociate your phone number from your Messages account. Once you’ve killed off the phone number, then people texting directly to that number should be able to get through. But the problem is all of the folks on IOS with your email address in their contacts. Those will still try to send via Messages rather than the phone number. So to really make sure you receive everything as a text message, the best bet is to disassociate everything from your Messages account.
It’s a pain in the ass sure, but it’s really the only way to do it. Otherwise you are bound to miss something coming through.
I do this for a living, and figuring it out and taking care of it was a pain for me. I can only imagine the normal end user trying to leave the platform. It would be a nightmare. So kudos to Apple, they’ve done a good job of locking you in a way that’s very friendly on the feature front, but a huge pain to ever get out of.
Rather than staying full time on the Lumia for as long as I wanted, I just switched back to the iPhone. It wasn’t the lack of Instagram, Flipboard or Sonos that ultimately killed Windows 8 Phone for me, it was the grip Messages has and my laziness to play whackamole in all my settings. Well played Apple, well played.
Today my good friend Bruce Elgort ends his tenure as president of OpenNTF. For those not in the Notes community, OpenNTF.org is a repository of open source software solutions for IBM Notes and Domino. These free software offerings have helped thousands of people and companies implement great solutions, and inspired many developers to learn techniques for programming for the platform.
This community would not be where it is today without Bruce. His enthusiasm and dedication have really helped keep OpenNTF afloat and in the public eye for many many years. He deserves every bit of praise he’s getting from all over the world today.
Thanks again for all of the hard work my friend. Don’t be a stranger
Ten years ago today I started my public-facing blog with the following wide-eyed post:
Wow, am I loving this blog software or what? It’s truly amazing what a great program this is, and what a tremendous amount of effort it has been to put together a killer blogging app. More to come as I tweak this damn thing.
That software was Blogsphere by Mr. Declan Lynch. It’s how I first got to meet Dec and become friends. That software also gave me a way to join a community of writers, friends and other technologists. In 2006, it helped me get paid for my writing with a gig that would last three years at Intranet Journal. It got me press credentials, blogger credentials, and it blazed a trail to do things I may never have otherwise.
My first daughter was nearly two back then and my second daughter was almost here. There was no iPhone or iPad or Android, and Blackberry was the only game in town. Mozilla was at version 1.5, and Chrome didn’t exist. I was planning a Domino 5.0.12 migration to Domino 6.5. I ended up migrating to Exchange. Ephedrine was still legal over the counter, Napster was a big deal, and HDTV didn’t really exist. I was a programmer, then an admin, and now I don the pointy hair. Things really have come a long way.
I’ve written over 1000 posts and interacted with over 2000 comments in those ten years. And even though my output has diminished over the years, I still love this medium. And despite the continual “Notes is Dead” proclamations and “Blogging is Dead” idiocy that we’ve had to endure over the years, I’m still working with IBM Notes and still blogging away.
This blog really has been a springboard for so many things. I’m grateful for that and grateful for every reader who has ever interacted here on Greyhawk’s Meanderings. This has been a big part of my online world, my online brand, and such an outlet for my writing. I would have done it if no one was reading, but I’m thankful that you did.
Ten years is a long time to do anything in this world, so I’m happy to have kept it going for so long. Here’s to doing it another ten. Thanks for coming along for the ride.
Last week, I was called upon to fulfill my job as a citizen and report for Jury Duty. Basically, you get called to a courthouse and do a lot of sitting around. Then, a group of 45 or so of you get corralled like cattle into a courtroom. You get to answer answer awesome questions like:
Do you have any religious objections to alcohol? or
Does anyone here NOT believe in the US system of Government?
Once you’ve answered the questions, then the attorneys get to dismiss people they think might not be good to their case. Those of us who seem fine to both the prosecution and defense get picked to be on a Jury.
I’ve actually been called quite a few times, but never actually picked. Well last week was my lucky week. I was part of the twelve (and two alternates) who were chosen to choose the fate of a man who was up for felony aggravated battery.
The defendant had struck a man with a large plastic BB gun at 2AM in the parking lot of a taco joint. When it broke, he then grabbed a baseball bat. Luckily for the person who was struck (and the defendant) there was an officer that saw him strike a victim the first time, and got there in time to keep him from striking with the bat.
The officer saw the defendant strike the victim. Everyone on both sides agreed that happened. They also agree it was in public. The thing they didn’t agree on was whether or not it was self-defense. Did the defendant feel threatened enough to have to defend himself? If we had even a shadow of a doubt whether it was self-defense or not, we had to proclaim him innocent.
Now the defendant was too drunk to drive (his fiance drove) and was known for starting fights when drunk (his fiance’s words.) The victim did NOT want to testify and had to be subpoenaed. The victim never struck the defendant, and also did not speak English. What the victim did do is stop the car, get out, and confront the drunk guy. For many of our jurors, that act of stopping the car (and possibly blocking the defendant in) and then coming around the car meant the defendant could have gotten scared enough to grab the first thing he could get his hands on and defend himself. He was found by us, a jury of his peers, to be not guilty.
I had to be convinced. I think this guy instigated the whole thing and was acting tough and as soon as someone got back in his face he hit him. But, I had to feel that beyond a reasonable doubt that he didn’t feel threatened to act in self-defense. Eventually, as one of the only dissenters, I caved, because there was the wee bit of doubt.
There were lots of screwed up things in everyone’s testimony and no one was really believable. The original officer who witnessed the crime that night was actually off duty, so rather than pay him overtime they brought in another officer to process the scene. That officer basically skated through the investigation and only wrote a one page report. The report didn’t have key info in it that could have been bad for the defendant and good for the prosecution.
Also, through testimony the defendant said he only had five or six beers and stopped drinking at 10PM. So some folks thought he might be fairly sober at 2AM and just had the fiance drive to be safe. Also they say he was really remorseful in the police car and very apologetic.
During your Jury Duty, you cannot research the case outside the courtroom, and you can only listen to the testimony. You are also not allowed to talk about it with anyone including other jurors. I followed the rules. But after the case was over and this man was set free, I did some research and found some news articles. The article from the night in question had his mug shot. He looked completely plastered and he was laughing and defiant. He didn’t seem remorseful and didn’t look the least bit sober. If we had been shown the mug shot, it’s possible folks might have had another opinion.
Despite my misgivings, I really like that it takes a unanimous vote of 12 people to convict someone in this country. I also like that people in the jury are really supposed to have not heard anything about the case and not have any knowledge of the situation. I think it’s a decent system, and it was nice to see it from the inside. Our case was fairly laughable, and there were so many mistakes that we had to proclaim the defendant not guilty. That said, I’m really glad that I didn’t end up on a trial that was more serious or deadly. I can sleep at night with this decision, I think a more serious case would be much harder to put behind me.
But I leave you with words of advice. If it’s 2AM, and you really want tacos, go to bed, you’re drunk.
In order to get back into the rhythm of blogging, you have to actually sit down and write. That’s true of any writer, you just have to sometimes force yourself to put words to the page. I used to have the urge to write all the time, and that’s largely been satiated with various social media outlets, but I miss blogging.
So I refreshed the blog template with a new Parallax theme from Themify.me that I like quite a bit. It’s got some great ways to share photos, so that’s rekindled the desire to get out and focus on my photography a bit more too. Both of these are good for my creative outlets, and I need to be more creative. Lately the pointy hair of the day job has focused on long term goals and politics more than the joy I get from technology. It’s not all a bad thing, just an evolution. I just need to make sure that I don’t lose that joy, whether it be technology, writing or photography.
Out in the Man Cave tonight I put some old memories up on the wall. My old baseball jersey from the town I grew up in, the T-shirt I designed for our college radio station, and some awesome shirts from the LDC including the Lotus “Back in Blue” shirt. It’s really rekindled a lot of memories and stirred the muse. Some punk music on the Sonos and a cigar at my side and things feel right.
So as I’ve done on several occasions over the last decade, I’m declaring that I’m back folks. Let’s see if these are hollow words or if I follow through
It’s been quite some time since I blogged anything here, and I believe some of it was a little bit of depression every time I came to the site and saw my last post. We had lost our dog Peanut to cancer, and whenever I came to the site to write, I never really had much to say.
We recently started looking to give a dog a forever home because we knew we wanted to get a dog in the summer months to get them acclimated to our house and the dog run and everything before the fall weather and rains kicked in. Nothing like trying to house train a dog when outside is completely soggy.
Well now we have filled that furry void with our new dog, Pepper Pawts. We adopted her from Cache Creek Animal Rescue a little while ago, and she has fit in perfectly with our family. She’s got a wonderfully mellow personality, loves to snuggle, was house trained and young enough to really be able to be a part of our family for a long time to come.
She’s made our house a home again.
You see, I’ve always loved dogs. And except for a couple years in college, dogs have been a part of my whole life, a faithful companion. In addition, Jen and I have had up to four dogs in the house for the entirety of our marriage. There’s just something about the unconditional love of a dog that makes life better.
So now things are back to where they should be. Pepper got her forever home, and we got a new family member. Makes coming to this blog worthwhile again. Maybe that means you’ll start seeing me post more regularly again. Don’t hold your breath, but I do feel energized to start writing again, so hopefully it will manifest itself here. Thanks Pepper.
A little over three weeks ago on March 13th, we had to put our dog Peanut to sleep. She had stopped eating, had a hard time getting around and looked at us like she knew it was her time to go. She had some non-cancerous tumors but they must have grown pretty rapidly, because one week she seemed fine, and by the next it was really too late to do anything.
If you didn’t know the story, Peanut came to us as a stray. Keeshonden are not a common breed, and for her to show up on our doorstep was pretty amazing. She spent a wonderful six years with us and we’ll miss her dearly.
The really weird piece for me is that this is the first time (save for the first couple years of college) that a dog hasn’t owned me. I grew up with dogs, and even before college was done, I made sure to have another canine companion. Since college we’ve had as many as four at a time in our home. And in our current house, we’ve always had a pup roaming the halls.
But now, we don’t.
I still find myself looking down to make sure I don’t step on a dog when turning a corner, or heading to another room. I’ve teared up when I have no one to give the yolk of my hard boiled egg to. I still have the urge to open the door to let the dog out before I leave or get home from work. These things I’ve done forever are no longer applicable. It feels empty.
My wife was sure I’d have to have another dog immediately, but I think she has the itch even more than I do. That said, I’m going to wait awhile. Maybe replace some carpet, and avoid the wet spring. Then we can look again. I have no doubt we’ll add another furry family member, but not quite yet. In the meantime, we have the photos to remember Peanut by, and we’ll give a little extra love to the cat.
I want to thank my wife for taking Peanut in for her final visit to the vet. I was crushed when I took Shadow in, and I couldn’t get that out of my head. My wife took the burden off of me and did it herself, and I know it was a really hard thing for her to do as well, no matter how necessary it was.
Have fun running in the wind Peanut, we’ll miss you.
Last week I was honored to part of a webcast that announced the worldwide launch of IBM Notes 9 Social edition. I was able to speak about how our company uses custom applications built on XPages and Domino to run our business. I also spoke as to how Traveler has helped our workforce be more connected, and how we are looking forward to integrating Connections into our Notes investment via Activity Streams and embedded experiences.
As the Director of IT for our company, I’m always trying to work with the best technologies to meet our needs. Those are not always IBM technologies. We use vendors like Microsoft, EMC, GoToMeeting, Salesforce.com, Basecamp and Box.com. I tend to choose the best platform to fit our specific needs, whatever they may be. I’m not simply an IBM fanboy.
That said, we’ve built the software that runs our business on XPages and Domino because it’s a great platform. We can’t buy off the shelf software to manage our business, it simply doesn’t exist. We could buy project management and warehousing programs, but it would be very hard to bend them to work the way we need. That’s why Domino is such a strong platform. I have a very small staff of very skilled developers who have built amazing applications that our business relies on to manage every bit of work we do. We have built it to fit our business processes exactly, and we can add in features at a very rapid pace. We integrate everything including our Microsoft ERP system, and I couldn’t be happier.
So why am I writing a blog post mentioning “legacy” on the day the brand new IBM Notes 9 Social Edition is released? Well, it’s because the market still sees it as legacy. There has really been no discernible marketing to the contrary. I’ll give you three quick examples that have all happened in the last couple of weeks. All were manageable, but I can’t believe I even have to deal with them.
First, a client of ours had been auditing our warehousing software. A German IT Auditor questioned (with much disdain) why were were using Lotus Notes instead of a “pro” warehousing system, and stated that the fact that we used Notes was a red flag. This was from a very large, very well known organization, yet this IT Auditor considered Notes legacy and worthy of disdain. It was even insinuated that nobody used Notes anymore.
I explained our reasoning for using Notes and Domino much like I did above, and then touted a brand new release of the product as well and over 100 million users worldwide, yet I feel that it fell on deaf ears.
The second one was an executive asking one of my employees what our “exit strategy for Notes” was? When the exec was talking with people from other companies, and some of our clients, the general consensus was that Notes was dead and people couldn’t believe we were still on it. So the executive assumed we had to be moving off of it soon.
Part of that is on me, and I need to continue to do a better job of internal marketing, but the reason I HAVE to do so much in the way of internal marketing is because there is little to no external marketing. You really don’t know that Notes exists unless you deal with IBM on a regular basis.
The last thing that happened was a simple offhanded comment on the This Week In Tech podcast. I don’t remember the context but the host Leo Laporte stated how he hated Notes and would never use it again. Granted, this man hadn’t touched the software in over seven years, but he was still attacking it. I’m sure he has no idea how nice the new client is, or how good the development environment is in XPages. Yet, he still made that statement that was heard as fact by tens of thousands of listeners.
Those of you that know me, and have read this blog for nearly a decade know that I will take IBM to task when it’s warranted, and I will give credit where credit is due. Obviously I believe wholeheartedly in Domino as a platform. I wouldn’t use it otherwise, and I wouldn’t take time out of my busy schedule to record customer testimonials or get interviewed for quotes for press releases. I am very publicly on record with the fact that Notes and Domino is the platform from which our business is run.
Today is a watershed moment. IBM Notes and Domino 9 Social Edition has been launched and it’s the best the product has ever been. It’s truly a great piece of software with so much potential in the right hands. It would be really nice if the tech universe starting seeing it that way. I would just like the perception of Notes to get better in the marketplace, because right now perception doesn’t match reality, and hopefully IBM can work on changing that.